Sir and i went to White Castle's for dinner, i've been craving them for about a week. After we made our way into the city for our monthly MAsT (Masters And slaves Together) meeting. There was a small turn out but an excellent topic for the discussion.
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How do You Define Master/Domme/Dom/Top or submissive/slave in Your Relationship?
Wow, lots and lots of opinions, mainly on the sub/slave debate. i have always thought of it as a slave gives up their right to say no, except of course for the final no that is a relationship ender. And a submissive reserves the right to say no and to use her safe words. This is why i still identify as a sub, but when i was asked my thoughts i realized that i do consider myself owned by Sir, i would do anything he asked of me at any time, i trust that he will always have my best interest at heart. And as for safe words....i haven't needed to safe word in a long time, again, i know that he can read me well and that he would always take care of me. So, why does the term slave seem so out of reach? i've addressed all my earlier concerns and i'm sure that those aren't true issues any more. We talked about it on the way home and i think we are both a lot more comfortable with the term slave now, we're going to sleep on it tonight (in separate rooms darn it!) and make a final decision tomorrow.
i'd really like to hear your thoughts on this, there were so many great opinions and i'm really trying to flesh it out for myself.
You can e-mail me at morgaine's e-mail or leave a comment below, anon is fine if you need it!
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Well, as you already know me and know I am a slave, you also know that I would have an opinion about it.
ReplyDeleteI would say to a submissive, if you are in a life and death situation with no time for discussion and your Dominant/Master told you to do one thing and you thought to do another, which would you do?
Now of course I am taking for granted that the Dominant/Master you are with, you trust.
Now as to how much you trust is the question. If you would not follow his orders in a situation that was dangerous than I would think you to be only a submissive but if you truly would put your life in his hands and know he would protect you, then you are possible slave qualified and time will tell.
It is not about the ability to say yes or no as even a slave in telling her Master all that is on her mind is giving him what he needs to know and how to proceed and what orders to give.
What I have learned as a first time slave, is that wanting and needing are not necessarily the same thing. A few times I have been puzzled by his choices, though after thinking about it and seeing how it turned out, he was in fact correct in his assessment and subsequent choice. My want would not have served nearly as well as his choice and order.
I am not saying it is an easy thing to give all control to another over your life, but if you can reach that point where you can trust completely and give all over to your Dominant/Master then you will then know the freedom that it will bring.
As strong and controlling as I was, I found true freedom in slavery to my Master and I have no regrets and am truly content now.
And even with all of that i still don't FEEL like a slave, i wonder if i ever will. i know that technically it is just a title and a title is only what you make of it. After our discussion last night Sir says that he FEELS like i am a slave and even called me by the Spanish word for slave (esclave) a couple of times after the meeting.
ReplyDeletei wonder if the difference is the fact that i must jump back and forth, in and out of outward submissive/slave behavior because of our son, i've always had trouble maintaining my headspace because of that.
i guess time will tell, i'm in no hurry to announce my status change as i don't feel like it is anyone's business but our own anyway. Just food for thought.
Thank you anon (although i now who you are!!!) for your insight! You are probably one of the best examples of a consensual slave that i know.