Seminar - Care and Feeding of the submissive

The seminar we attended last night was incredible.  i wasn’t able to take notes and my memory is less than stellar but i’ll try get as much of it as possible here to share, i'll probably add as more of it comes back to me, it was just that good!

The guiding principal of the entire class was that the Dominant has a responsibility to care for and nurture their submissive.  Now we’ve all heard that, and it sounds easy, but just providing a roof over their head or food on the table is not what we were discussing.  A submissive gives everything to their Dominant, their mind, heart, soul, will, and body.  It is the duty of the Dominant to provide the emotional and physical support that a submissive needs when giving their “all” to their Dominant.  One of the key points that Mistress Karen made was that if She gave her submissive a task and he failed it was Her failure not his. She knows that he gives himself completely to Her and if he was unable to complete one of his duties it was because She had not given him the information, resources, or the means to be successful. 

Another point made was that without communication our relationships really can’t work.  The presenters have been in a 24/7 D/s relationship for 7 years….She is a very extroverted, everything on the surface person, when She needs something it’s right there for him to see and he knows how to take care of Her, he, on the other hand, is very quiet, reserved, and much more introverted personality.  he has trouble letting Her know when he needs something, and as She said, "I can’t read minds"…they have worked out a way to deal with this, She gives him the quiet space he needs up to a point and then makes him sit down and talk it out with Her.  The point to this is, we aren’t all the same, and where, as submissives, we pride ourselves on knowing what to do for our Dominants, reading the subtle hints and providing what They need , many times we aren’t good at expressing our needs, and yes, we are allowed to have needs.  In our relationship this is done by text/chat messages, if i have a need or am feeling very off about something i approach Him, respectfully of course, by message and tell Him what i’m feeling or what i need.  

i'd love to hear how others handle this, maybe by a certain time each week where you are able to speak more freely?  Feel free to add comments below, anon feature is on, you don't need to give your name!