Recently a friend uprooted her life and moved to be with her online Master of two years, she arrived and immediately had difficulties with housing, her Master was no help whatsoever, so she struggled to find an appropriate place to stay and to learn the public transportation system alone. At times, because of her lack of knowledge of the large city she was in, she would actually wander into areas that weren't safe, again, her Master was "too busy" to help her. This went on for months, she would only see him every couple of weeks, of course he was her "owner" and she didn't question his intentions. Eventually she wrote him and told him that she was confused and ready to go home. He reassured her that all was well and that she should stay. At this point, i must say, i was pretty frustrated, i wanted to be a good supportive friend but i also knew that what was going on was not right, that his commitment to caring for her was certainly lacking. Fortunately at this point she made some local really awesome new lifestyle friends who were able to convince her that this was not right, that he was not performing his duties as a Master and that she should request to be released from his service. He agreed at that point and released her. Of course she is still in that city and not able to get home for a while but i'm convinced that the new friends she has made will help her until she is able to leave.
So, what are the responsibilities of the Master? This was the slave's first M/s relationship but the Master claims to have been a Master for years...shouldn't he know better? He told her it was a 24/7 TPE relationship...so where does his duty lie?
Just my thoughts, and a bit of venting of my frustration.
Well the said slave is sitting with me in my sitting room and I would like to thank you for such a well written blog.
ReplyDeleteAfter meeting and chatting with her intensively and sharing my home and Bdsm experiences with her, I had some concerns regarding his duty of care towards her. Although I have not known her very long, I had some serious concerns for her safety, and her role as his slave. A slave is an investment in time energy and lifelong commitment. And it’s a two Way Street as a Master needs as well as her needs should be met. One needs to be committed to this way of life. Without it the slave ends up drifting aimlessly. I really feel this had happened to her. I questioned his resolve and commitment to her.
A Master/Dominant with high resolve would be committed entirely and will do everything possible to make his slave, safe, cherished and loved, so she can grow into the slave he seeked.
Her mental health is determined by how much time a Master spends, understanding her needs and anticipating her fears. If he treat her doubts, her fears, and her insecurities as interruptions on his bigger plans, then he would end up with a slave unable to serve him. The desires he had, needs to match the abilities of his slave. He signed on the dotted line to accept her in to his life. He accepted her moving from her home to this country. He had a duty of care to make sure where she lives is safe, that she has enough food to eat, that she is physically safe, and that he can teach her how to live in this lifestyle to the best of her abilities.
I was aware of the fact that she wrote a daily diary to him but did he reply... rareley!!! But I would have expected him to look beyond that and ensure her training is being met. It seems so far she has received little if any guidance or training from him. That is neglect on his part. Direction was utterly lacking in her life. I don’t mean being bossy, I mean directing her on how to live daily life fully.
In conclusion I gracefully asked him to sincerely reconsider his ownership of her. I think all round both for him and her, to release her and allow her to move on with her life was the best option. As she was simply floating and lost. That is sadly no way to treat any person let alone your submissive or slave.
Now she has been released I have seen such changes in her positive attitude and I am glad she finally has closure.
As for the male involved he is no Master or Dominate, his a man who can dictate with words but that's not good enough to title oneself Master. For god sake she was mugged twice and receive no support from him what so ever and he calls him self a Master... yea right!!
What man can tell a slave to come over 3000 miles to serve him and they have never played, touched, kissed or even go through the basic expectaions of his needs.
I feel saddened over all she has gone through, I could not see her as she was so I stepped in... The not knowing, the no replies to her emails, no text messages, no contact, no instructions, no secure home to stay, no respect, no nothing really apart from an odd message, that was not acceptable.
I really feel that when he met her he decided he didn't want to know, then didn't know how to handle it and what's worse is his puttting all the blame on her and this is utter bollocks...
His a prick and when she goes home, as I do not want any thing to come back onto her. I will have the pleasure on my next passing of him at a munch, to tell him what a prat, idiot and stupid man he is.
A lession learned.
angellover
i love your comments! Thanks for being the most awesome person that you are and for taking care of our girl!
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