Trust in our Relationships

Wow, now this is a huge topic.  In my opinion trust is everything...between D/s, M/s or however you define yourselves if you don't have absolute trust how do you survive?  How do you let go totally?  How do you trust that everything you want and need will be taken care of?


Sir and i have been together forever, literally, we dated for 9 years before we got married and we've been married 26 years....i trust Him completely, and He trusts me to tell Him when enough is enough.  But that's in the playroom, what about outside the playroom.  Do you need Him to be 100% honest with you and are you 100% honest with Him?  How about outside of your D/s relationship, do you tell Him everything?  Do you require the people that you associate with to be 100% honest in their dealings?


For me, it's 100% honest or nothing, i need to be 100% with Him inside the playroom and outside it.  i need to know that all the people in my life are 100% honest all the time.  Recently i had to end a relationship that was very, very important to me because she was involved in less than honest dealings, i can not abide that in my life, it is just who i am.  i need total honesty in all that i do, i feel dirty, and less of a person when i am involved with people who can not be totally honest all the time.  Be it in your real life relationships or your online relationships, if you can't tell your significant other everything you are doing then how can you live with yourself?


This might seem high handed or preachy but i've seen how hard it is for someone to find out the truth, i've been that guy, it hurts on a level that no one can really understand if they aren't in the situation.  I'm sorry,  is just never enough.  i ended my relationship when the person i loved was hanging out with someone who was lying to her husband, it just isn't something i can be a part of and sleep well at night.  Apparently the thrill of the new relationship was enough for them to compromise their principals, it isn't for me.


So, how are you completely honest in your D/s, M/s relationship?  Are there areas where you would like to be more honest but just haven't found a way to do it?  i'd love to hear your stories, i'm always open to learning from others.

Trust

i know that He will always catch me when i fall, that is the ultimate trust.