By Any Other Name...

Within your relationship do you have special names, does the way that you address each other change depending on the situation?

We still have a child in the house so the use of higher protocol names isn't always possible.  To get around that we have endearments that we use that remind us of our relationship.  Sir's first language was Spanish, he is now bilingual so he calls me "Mi vida" meaning My life and i refer to him as "mi amor" meaning my love.  When we are in a kinky environment or when we are playing i refer to him as Sir.  

Neither of us is into humiliation play so we are not comfortable with some of the other names that i have heard used, this works for us.

I'd love to hear what you use and how it works for you!

Have a great night, i'll post again tonight with the fun from the playparty last night.

To Sir or not Sir...

How do you address others in the lifestyle?  Do you automatically give strangers respect, or give automatic courtesy and wait for the individual to earn personal respect?

We live in a community that is extremely low protocol.  Many of our Dominants/Masters/Mistresses do not use their real name, choosing instead to use their Fetlife or scene name.  For that reason some prefer to be addressed that way instead of the more formal Sir or Ma'am, and others prefer to be addressed strictly by their first name.

In our relationship i am to address them as Sir and either their first name if it is known or their scene name if i do not know the first name and Ma'am or Mistress and first name or scene name.  Sir considers it proper etiquette to show this level of respect UNLESS or UNTIL they lose His respect.  At that point they are addressed by either scene or first name.


i will say that Sir's level of protocol is higher than most submissives/slaves use and it has raised eyebrows a few times.  Of course if the Dominant/Master/Mistress requests of Sir that i address them differently He will instruct me to do so.  By adhering to this higher level of protocol i am representing my Sir well, which, of course is my highest priority!


What does your Dominant request of you?  How do you handle these situations?