Now What Do We Do?

"Love well, whip well."~Benjamin Franklin

Sometimes things are going along wonderfully and then BAM!  For us that happened in February of this year.  We're pretty much balanced in our needs in the playroom, i like pain and He's able to give it to me.  In November of last year Sir fell down the stairs, He tore his rotator cuff.  We were able to play but most of the impact play was very uncomfortable for Him.  In February He had surgery to repair what ended up being a much larger tear than they thought in His dominant arm.  For six weeks He was completely immobilized in a splint and even after that with all the physical therapy He was mostly unable to use that arm.


i need pain, i'm a masochist and when i don't get pain play i'm not a very happy person. After about 8 weeks i was at a pretty miserable place.  Sir and i are monogamous in our play, we don't play in public and we don't play with other people.  A very dear Dominant friend approached Sir and offered to scene with me in the privacy of their home (they have an awesome dungeon).  Sir recognized that i really needed it and agreed, Sir Michael and His submissive were there, as were Sir and i.  The scene went well and we were all feeling good about it, there were no sexual overtures, Sir Michael and his sub are completely monogamous too.  It was all about giving me what i needed at that time.  Since then i have scened with Sir Michael three other times, again with all parties present.  During this time Sir scened with me in our dungeon but was just more creative.  He used rope, wax, and even microbranding, all things he could do without the use his arm.


At this point Sir is able to use His arm pretty well and i don't think we will need to have Sir Michael help us out.  i know how hard the decision to allow Sir Michael into our dynamic was for Sir, He's extremely possessive and i know He would not have made that decision if He hadn't known where i was and how much i needed it.  


i don't kid myself into thinking that these same issued don't come up for other D/s, M/s couples.  i'd love to know how other couples deal with these issues.  Please respond by comment and let me know!